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Rejection
Rejection is not a joke.
It hurts people in various ways.
While you reading this, maybe u, yourself just got rejected for many many different situations and there is high possibilities that other people out there just encountered the same, today or the past few days.
In fact, it is undeniable that all of us might experienced this kind of things because we merely human being and rejection is normal and what makes it different is how impactful it is, to every single person
So today I'm gonna share about
R.E.J.E.C.T.I.O.N based on my perspectives
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Okay back to the business,
First, we will go to....
1. When people got rejected?
• Interview
Imagine you are really passionate and put so much hope to get that one particular job.
It's like, the dream job from a dream company since the very beginning
You got prepared so well, came with full enthusiasm, ethic and excelled the interview session.
Everything went well.
U could ensure that 90% u will passed and get the job
But turned out, the results doesn't satisfy u
U got rejected 😢
The company rejected u
That is the rejection during interviews.
Then, u might also got rejected for your....
• Proposal
Students always come with ideas and prepare proposal for project during study.
U sacrifice your time, energy and all
Just to complete your proposal.
But suddenly your proposal got rejected.
It's like..all your late sleeping, backache, headache and all the energy are wasted!
Your SV rejected your proposal and u were like, starting it all over again.
Writing again, changing everything which requires a looooott of things to complete it.
Ever experienced?
Same goes to the employee who submit proposal to your boss
Feeling like no one appreciate your hard work 😫
So...
Next is....
• Confession
Having crush is normal.
But confessing to your crush is wayyyy extraordinary!
Massive shout out to the people who ever confessed your feelings 🥳
When you have crush on someone,
u gathered so much strength, bravery and effort to confess your feelings.
All the insecurities and shyness fleeing away.
You came with so much sincerity and heart full of love
but suddenly
You've got rejected 💔
Could be because of no feeling, social status, incompatible mind and principle,
or simply because u both are not meant go be together
That's why someone got rejected.
If u ever went thru this, this is for u... ⚘
Moving on.....
• Offer
You offered someone to like...join u.
Be with u. Get into your circle. U convince or persuade someone to take what u offered.
But they refused. And suddenly u saw them taking that offer from other's person.
Then u will be extremely disappointed and sad because u've been thinking that u offered them in the best things and the best way. They showed the best response as well but at last, they didn't choose u.
That is also a painful rejection. 😔
So...
Have u ever go thru all that?
Or experienced one of it?
It hurts right?
So now, I would like to proceed with another point which is..how it affects u?
2. How rejection affect someone?
Many of us not realizing that rejection give us psychological wounds i.e: emotional pain, smacking our self-esteem and wiping away our self motivation.
Usually, the phases will be..
• we're feeling sort of anger and feel mad of someone for not choosing or accept what we have given
• we will be like flooded with abundance of frustration, insecurities, sorrow and guilt
• then we will start to mute ourself from the society
• and it goes to deeeeep and full of inner monologues lingering in our head from dusk to dawn. At this point, we were like trapped in a box of 'self thought' which is....
Blaming ourself.
Feeling low.
Overthinking of our lack and inadequacy
And the things keep repeating like a trampoline going back and forth like it can't be ripped off from your brain until certain period of time.
It will become even worse if we put a lot of effort, hope, energy, strength on it.
When a single person do not prepare for any consequences and possibilities, they suddenly flopped and feel destroyed inside.
That is what I think what psychological wounds meant.
Maybe it's not worse as physical pain is, but the pain is there.
It is irrelevant to compare these 2 because the atmosphere is different.
But for me, I'm more likely to feel and vividly remember about emotional pain rather than physical pain.
Because wherever I tried to recall the physical pain, I can't feel anything but when it comes to emotional pain, I would suddenly got lump in my throat and fight back tears. It will forever fresh on my mind till this very day.
Emotional pain could possibly pause ourself to like, continuing our regular basic things just like physical pain does if it's not cured asap.
It took away your faith, spirit and courage to do anything in your life then after.
So I hope u clear with, how rejection affects people.
So reaching to last point which is how to deal with rejection? This become the most important things here. So...
3. How to deal with rejection?
• A bestfriend of mine shared to me a quote which mentioned about how Powerful Allah is. It drove me sooo deep into inner reflection. I then realized that no matter how huge the amount of effort we put into something, but if Allah doesn't want to give it to us, it will not reach to us. Because He has that power.
As a muslim, of course I would like to emphasize the crucial things that we need to like...pay attention to.
At the end of the day we realized that we as human, may has plan and proceed our plan but in fact,
Allah is the one who is the Most Powerful, the Most Merciful, He is the one who has full right on us.
First and foremost, remember that everything we do is
Because of Allah
From Allah
To Allah
He is the one who conquers our lives.
He will give and He can take it back.
He will stop it or He will allow it to happen.
He can postpone our wish and He can granted it right away.
Maybe u have given your best to do something but when you got rejected, it doesn't mean that you are not good.
It just about timing and rizq.
There always a hikmah behind every rejection
Maybe Allah wants us to like...
improve ourself, maybe it's not the best for us, or maybe there is any issue behind the things that we always wanted to.
We have no idea what it is but Allah knows everything.
Maybe there is a lot more things that Allah want to grant for us later.
All we need to do is sabr and redha.
• Then, after redha, what we can do to soothe the pain?
Reconnect to the things outside.
Leave our dark box and started to reach out to the closest person who care, appreciate and value us even during our low moments in life.
Be it our family, spouse, friends or start to read out and watch some motivation or positive content.
It will definitely give us affirmations and transfer strength and courage that may recover our sorrow.
• Lastly, tajdid niat and start all over again with full of eager and enthusiastic feelings to make it better and strive.
Don't stop and give up.
My beloved friend said, the effort is in our control.
But the result is something that we can't even control.
Focus on what we have ability to control.
And tawakkal for the result.
It might hurt but remember, Allah love us more that we think.
May Allah help us and relief our pain after rejection in this dunya.
Thanks for reading ❤
