Middle Child

 

Frequently people talk about being the eldest, the second child & the youngest

But rarely I witness people talking about the middle child

Middle child is actually not always an easy path
*Anyway this is not a competition of who carry the heaviest tasks
just to spit the fact about middle child that people rarely highlight about 🤭

People might say that the path is easier since the elder siblings already pave the way for us to pass thru elegantly
Couldn't agree more

But become a middle child always need u to deal with inner conflict
Be it in emotional state or mental state
It is when u need to decide either u want to follow the path
or excell in your own way or choice in life

The common things I've heard either from other people's experience
or in drama is when middle child are treated like an option and comparisons
Either it is for good reason or other way around

Have u watch Reply 1988? I haven't finished it yet but Deok-Suns's heartbreaking scenes have been shared everywhere in my explore Instagram and Twitter

Her character pretty much tell us about the untold story of middle child's inner crisis that is developed by time
that so many people take lightly since the family seems to be uproblematic and the ambience feel warm with love from the parents

In spite of the happy-family image, there's a girl whose heart is piling up with lack of love and attention

It looks silly for a teenager to break into tears like that but it's heartbreaking at the same times


Some middle child always appear the happiest and unbother
but it takes too much courage and maturity to blend into the situation cuz they thought
"it's not that bad actually"

Regardless how much things u evolve around, how many achievements u manage to unlock,
u are just expected to be a spitting image of your elder sister and brother

There's like a ready-to-use template that u need to follow in order to become a decent human being is it?🤔

Not to mention, when u are young, u always need to wear the second-hand outfit that your elder siblings aren't fit any longer hahahaha

As for the latest generation,
the album of photo is all in the smartphone while the elder siblings got full physical printed album of baby's footage 🤣

Sometimes u seems rebellious when u argue the steps taken by the elder members
but the unknown shifting desire within yourself is gonna follow it anyway cuz u think it's easier this way

Nevertheless, not everything about middle child is saddening

Sometimes middle child will always learn from the elder in term surviving and
The elder might also help us escape from repeating the same failure that they had stepped on
It's like u just getting the "do and don't" tips
in advance
Surely they saved u so many times

Regardless which numbers are we in the family, there will always a silver  lining that we oftentimes mislook and might take it for granted so let us  just be grateful cuz at least we have everything
Parents, the elder and the younger

These create a beautiful story of your life getting to experience this middle-child position cuz some people wish to have other sisters or brothers either older or younger than them
These sweet memories will be the best gift to us, middle child 🥰

Cuboid

Have u heard about the theory of 

'a wooden brick that destroys the whole building'?

I found this quote/theory on Twitter but couldn't found where did I saw it
Not in my bookmark, my likes/retweet history, picture downloaded or screenshot
I even failed to trace the idiom in Google as well😆

That is so relatable that I feel like share it

So it's actually the wooden toy set that we used to play with when we're kids
I'm not sure if u guys did remember about this
But I did played this wooden brick with my siblings and cousin during childhood

Basically the players would consist of probably 5 person and we need to put 3 cuboid on the floor vertically and put some more on top of it horizontally and make the same arrangement for about 10 rows altogether * depends on how much wooden cuboid u have*
So the game start!

First person needs to pull out one of the cuboid very carefully so that the wooden building block does not collapse
Then the second player will take turn to pull another one

Let's say a player ruin the building block, he/she will immediately kicked out off the game 😆
The remaining players will build again the balance of the cuboid and the game keep repeating until there is only 1 player left with clean record and he/she will consider the winner
The final moment of the game is the most intense part

Usually, the survivors will start to make it harder for their opponents by erasing the bottom part of the wooden building so it will reduce the stability of ground surface of the whole structure 🤣
This got me nervous every freaking time
And by pulling just one cuboid either from top, from the side or bottom, could demolish the entire wooden blocks and the game ends ~
So gaisss

Let's say that u are the winner
U will be consider the strongest and the most skillful survivor

But if you are the first runner up, u will be disappointed
After all the rounds, the consistency, the hurdles and all the 'almost fail' rounds that u manage to fight for, u still the first runner up not the winner

It just took a single tiny cuboid of wooden block to destroy the whole imperfect, unstable building block that u have been maintaining all this time

If it's just the game, u might just...
"ohhh noooo!!
Arggggg"
And just laugh over it..

But
How if, we put this into a real life game?
Do u wanna give it a try?

So I believe that every single day, we all possibly have had some uncomfortable feelings right?

It's either miserable, anxious, deflated, frustrated, stress, overwhelming, angry, fatigue, etc.

Or it just me who always feeling that way? 🤣
It just there, mixing, accumulating inside and stay there for some particular moments

Sometimes it will be some threat here and there and the tears about to come over but like...
"No no..not yet..stay put..u got this", your inner voice started to play role

And...
at one break point, it will just...
Break down and all hell break loose~

Either you cry out loud, or u just yell and shout and some people tend to throw things and stuff
Depend on individual ways of expressing feelings

But when we looking back that moment when it had passed, or when we just settled down and feel better, we tend to feel
"Wait..
How that can happened?"

At this very moment, we then realized, every state of emotion, there must be something that triggers it to happen

and guess what..it's actually just the tiny little  thing that make us cry and break down and

the fact that, that tiny little thing didn't come alone to break us

Is it normal for a 20's something years old girl  crying over her spilled drink on the floor when she just about to leave

She aren't supposed to get irritated easily  just because of her shirt stuck at the doorknob in the morning

It's illogical if she cried just because her husband get her kueyteow tomyam instead of bihun tomyam she been craving for

Or when she gives up of preparing dinner altogether due to the glass jar lid that is too tight to open

It's irrational to see these scenario but it's actually exist around us

Have u watch a kdrama scene when a pregnant wife cry out loud just because she can't tie up her shoelace?
If I'm not mistaken that scene is from "Hometown Cha3" TV drama
The lady can't bend down to the ground due to her preggy belly
But why did she cried a river, cursing "stupid shoelace" and yelling his husband?
It just the shoelace 😅
I mean, do she really need to act dramatically because of the shoelace?
It's normal for a kid to react that way but she obviously a grownup fine woman

Well actually, the real reason of that tears is because she's too tired and exhausted
She fedup over her ignorance, unhelpful husband who take lightly of her pregnancy journey needs all these months pregnant phase
The innocent shoelace is consider her last reserved card

So let's say u see people crying over a petty issue, and thought they are being immature,
kindly..think again
Cuz u probably wrong

It's actually a set of feelings that bottling up within us

The tears is just very close underneath the surface, resting, waiting to be released out.

Just like the unstable building block that we build
It just takes a wooden cuboid to destroy all within a second ,
then..puffff!
All shattered into pieces

It does not destroyed because of that tiny cuboid that the player pull out
But indeed it destroyed because of unstable and the burden that the building carry on its back all this while

Just like us
The heaviness, the unsettle feelings, the fatigue,
the patience put into,  the hurdles
Everything is mounting onto us
That's why we can easily broken into pieces due to mere little things that we reserved for the last ⚘